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What You Need To Tell Kids About Divorce

There comes a time when people exchange beautiful vows. For some it is out of pressure from other sources. There are some that did not want to get married at all. They just do it because it feels safe and is expected of them from the society. Many people assume that it is what other people expect of them. This ends up in a colorful wedding ceremony but an unhappy marriage. And this is okay. This guide talks about what kids need to know about divorce.

It is essential to know that people don’t always fall in love with someone who is potential. Majority of people don’t always reach their potential. This could be because of inability or out of choice. Potential is limiting. You only look at what is presented to you at that time. This is what the rest of the world sees. This is a mistake that most people make with their ex boyfriends at least once. You viewed them as having the potential and are everything you wanted in life. You admired the way they talked, walked and after some time it became just another story.

Most people love getting married.

However, marriage can be tough even if it’s healthy and functional. Each one of you can be doing their best but you will still encounter some rough patches. It is essential that your kids know that divorce does not mean that you are doing the wrong things. There are times when abuse happens. There also could be miscommunication. Also, there could be irreconcilable differences. Divorce is something that is based on genuine reasons. There comes a time when parents just have to stop beating themselves up and just do what they want to do. Regret is not necessary because at one point this person was your source of joy.

Divorce is devastating. However, being trapped in a marriage that is not working can turn out to be the most awful feeling. You can go for couple counseling which has helped many couples. However, divorce can be the only choice left.

Couples are allowed to change their minds and do what is best for them. Every person is free to make their choices to make despite the world being so judgemental. Kids need to know that their parents are not failures in case things don’t work out. Divorce is a painful process. However, staying in a marriage that is not fulfilling can be dangerous. All you will keep thinking about is your freedom and how happy you could be if you had moved on. This can be very hurting.

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